So Jessica Stood Me Up. STOOD. Me. UP! #1@$$!

You’re dressed to the nines. You smell like the perfumes section of the mall. You have your ‘swag’ turned on to the full and you’re ready to blow your date’s mind away. And so you showed up at your agreed location, ready and actually giddy for your rendezvous.

wait5 minutes had gone by and she isn’t there yet. ‘Ahh I came in early’, you said.

10 minutes: ‘Ahh girls. Pretty sure she’s looking for a grand, er – dramatic entrance’.

30 minutes and a glass and a half of iced tea: ‘Traffic sure is bad. She should have skipped the freeway; it’s a Wednesday night.’

55 minutes: ‘The waitress is eyeing me suspiciously. I better order something more than just iced tea’.

1.5 hours and 3 bathroom trips later: ‘She’s not picking up. Oh boy. Nah. Can’t be. She’s a nice girl. She won’t. But could she?’

2 hours (and I don’t think you’d actually wait this long): ‘Maybe she got sick or something…just anything!

Ahh and then finally you leave. Annoying!

Have you ever been in this kind of situation? Have you ever been stood up by a date? Have you ever anticipated and waited for some girl who decided to show up without informing you until the last minute or at all? Well, then, my dear friend, you are just one of the thousands of men across the globe who have been stood up by their dates. Well, do you want tips? So for flirting tips, click here.

In this situation, even when the urge to figure out what happened to your date, or make up possible excuses to justify your dates absence, I believe the better, more sane and more dignity-saving action to do is this: figure out what to do to save your face and not look like the loser in the situation.

Tips on how to survive

Here are some gentlemanly tips on how to survive and move on from getting stood up by a girl:

  • When you know it’s time to leave (aka you’ve been waiting more than half an hour without a word from your date), don’t make such a fuss or drama that everyone else can see. Don’t look around too tensely either, like you’re hoping no one noticed that your date didn’t show up. Stand up like nothing happened and leave in the same manner.
  • Grab yourself a burger or some comfort food if you’re too bummed from being stood up (that is if you haven’t yet ordered anything while waiting for her).
  • Don’t call her. It will make you look desperate. Wait for her to call or explain what happened. Emailing her or texting her would be your safest choice, just in case she does have a very valid reason for standing you up. And don’t send her a rant message. That’s just spelling L-O-S-E-R to you. Keep cool (or at least pretend to be). *Wink* She won’t know the difference.
  • Don’t post on her wall or make a Facebook status about it. That’s low and un-classy.
  • Don’t overanalyze what happened either. You came, she didn’t. Period. Remember, you were decent enough to show up, it was not a humiliation on your part that she didn’t show up. Some men tend to over think this part when they really shouldn’t because (1) it’s useless, and (2) it will bruise their ego much harder than it should.
  • And if she does offer an explanation, listen and let your better judgment make the decision.

Being stood up on a date is not that bad. Some people have it worse; consider it a warning about this certain woman.

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Sicko

Readers, I’ve been feeling under the weather lately. Yes that’s right; I’ve got Man Flu and I’ve been feeling pretty sorry for myself. Which got me to thinking about my next blog post and what to do if the lovely lady in your life is under the weather. Because, at the end of the day, it’s not always about us. So, is she on PMS? Instead of moping around for cancelling your romantic date (you’re actually selfish to think it’s something to mope about), why don’t you take this as an opportunity to make her feel extra loved? (Oh that makes it an excuse for us girls to demand extra care, extra love and extra attention).

You know, women can be emotional but sickness makes us extra-extra emotional.

So here are my top tips for making her happy and gush over you and get your much-deserved reward when she’s feeling so much better. So I actually got these tips from an article I read on techniques to pick up girls but the concept is pretty much the same.

So here are my 5 ways to be romantic when she’s sick.

To start off the best thing you could do is cook for her. Getting sick pretty much kills anyone’s appetite. But believe me, a little bit of effort will go a long, long way. If you’re not much of a cook and you cannot probably nail a good meal a la 5-star restaurant, beat it on the presentation. Get in her room with some Campbell’s corn soup, some fresh squeeze (no sodas!) and a mini teddy bear or a bouquet of roses will do the job pretty easily. If you don’t know what to cook, email me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com for an easy chicken noodle soup recipe or check this out.

The next step is really simple, just look after her. Even the toughest of femme fatales becomes a teeny tiny baby when sick. Cover her in her favorite blankie, sing her to sleep, tell her stories, and dote on her like you would your own kid. Nothing beats a caring guy to a sick lady.

So this piece of advice isn’t gonna be anyone’s favorite, but it will get you brownie points: do the chores. Now this is definitely one of the skills that would boost your love life! Ahh but of course. Actually, this beats everything. The last thing a woman wants to see after recovering from an illness is a messed up house. It does not matter whether you are living together or not. Simply doing her laundry, cleaning her place, doing the dishes, walking the dog or at least running to the Laundromat for her stuff will go a long, long way. She’d love to recover back to a clean place.

Tips number four is to entertain her. When her ills confine her to her room for days on end, chances are she’s bored. But not if you keep her entertained. Set up a movie marathon with her, make a playlist for her, or do a comedy skit for her! You can even make up silly little poems and love notes that she can read when she’s bored or she’s alone! You don’t need to be a genius, just be a creatively caring dude.

Lastly, just keep her company. Give her your time and attention. Sometimes, you just do not need to do anything but keep her a good company for her to feel loved even when she’s sick. And sometimes, still, you don’t even need to talk. Hugging her, holding her or touching her constantly can definitely help do the trick. But if she needs to be isolated (i.e. flu or some other contagious disease), make sure you keep her company in a different way still. Make use of whatever available technology – Skype, Facebook, text, etc. Call her, text her, make her feel like you’re just around even when the doctors are not letting you see her.

And finally, when she does come around after her ills, you’ll find a very, very grateful girl who’s willing to do anything to make it up to you. *Wink!*

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Stranger Love Can Be Creepy

Right guys this week is all about discovering how to attract an unknown girl. If you thought dating was hard before, wait until you read about what I’ve been through. Whether you have been watching a girl in your neighborhood, at school or at work from afar, you have probably thought about making a move at some point. However, if you have no idea how to attract an unknown girl, then you need to learn how to do so now.

Okay, this is the truly difficult bit; build up your confidence levels. Everything begins with confidence – remember that. In fact, confidence in itself can help you learn how to attract an unknown girl with ease. After all, if you are confident, you won’t be too conscious of your actions overall.

For starters, you shouldn’t be ashamed to be yourself. In fact, you have to be yourself, so that she will see who you really are right from the start instead of falling in love with somebody you are merely claiming to be.

So, don’t try to be somebody you’re not.

This means that you shouldn’t imitate what other guys are doing nor should you use the pickup lines that other guys use, either.

In a nutshell, confidence is really just about accepting yourself and using your personal identity to talk to the girl that you like. So, if you want to learn how to pick up girls and succeed, you have to attract her by being yourself.

I can’t emphasize enough as well how important it is to look good. Confidence aside, you should also aim to look good by taking care of your appearance. Now, this doesn’t necessarily mean that you should spend a fortune on creams and sprays; however, you should invest in cleanliness and hygiene. So, make sure that you keep your hair well-combed, your clothes fresh and well-ironed, and your teeth white and clean.

Although it may be true that looking unusual will get a girl’s attention, this doesn’t necessarily mean that she will find you attractive if you are. However, if you look fresh and clean at all times, girls will want to approach you because distracting stains or disturbing stenches won’t be in the way.

This tip is a little cunning but try a little reverse psychology. One easy way to attract an unknown girl would be to use reverse psychology. Unlike all of the other guys out there who aim to look popular, you should detach yourself from girls sometimes and be different. If you ever find yourself surrounded by rowdy guys and a handful of girls, for example, be the chivalrous gentleman who stands out in a good way.

Believe it or not, acting powerful and cool when you are in a group of people will not always work.

In fact, sometimes, it won’t work at all. Truth be told: most of the time, these things only work on television shows. In real life, you will only look arrogant, mean and disrespectful if you act this way – and these are obviously things that girls will not want to see in a guy.

There are a ton of ways on how to attract an unknown girl out there, but don’t underestimate the basic tips mentioned above. These techniques can actually help you create rapport with the girl that you like and win her over in the long run. Also, always go on the lookout for good tips on how to flirt with girls – a good resource is http://www.octobermansequence.org/ .

Good luck in your seduction undertakings!

-Dahlak

PS: I am still open for dating coaching. If you need help improving your relationships with women, contact me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com

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Emotions… What A Beyotch!

Hey guys, this week we’re gonna look at one of the most fatal factors in a relationship; an emotionally insecure girlfriend. Trust me, you don’t want that, I’ve had a bit of experience in this area with an ex in the past. It can be as simple and as uncomplicated as some bouts of jealousy and clinginess, to a total emotion wreck of a player who could break your heart over and over again.

See, emotional security is one of the main reasons why people get into relationships – to feel secure and not alone in their emotional battles. And if you fail to give her that, you may fail to make her happy and you may be at risk of losing who might be the girl of your dreams.

You and your girlfriend have your own set of responsibilities in the relationship but your foremost obligation is to make her feel secure emotionally, as she should to you. And to achieve that, it needs more than just the usual exchange of ‘I love you’s’.

Here are some of the most important and simple ways to make your girlfriend emotionally secure:
So number 1, just pay her attention. Girls are aware that we are huge attention-seekers. We love getting the attention of our men, most especially. Does she casually sneak in anecdotes like, “I want to go out and have an outdoor date!” in every conversation? So give your girlfriend exactly that. Listen to her, ask her about how her day went, and always pay attention to her stories. And it does not stop with that. Paying attention means noticing even the words that are unsaid. So always be sensitive about her.

Next up, do not judge her for how she feels. We are all entitled to whatever we feel, and we should feel most protected from judgment and ridicule around the people we love. So if she feels ugly, or she’s angry at her boss for no reason, do not judge her nor ridicule her. Be kind in speaking your thoughts out – girls are extremely sensitive. And always, always listen to her. Always show her that she can trust you with her deepest, innermost feelings.

Some other good advice I can give you; nurture her other passions. Girls can be so passionate about so many things apart from you. It could be her work, her pets, her studies, maybe even her garden or cooking. Whatever it is, as long as it does not harm her, support her and nurture her. You, the love of her life, is expected to be her foremost source of support so give it to her and do not disappoint her. This is a skill that you should have if you want to be happy in your dating life and relationship.

And you need to learn to trust her. When she sees and feels that you are confident about her and that you trust her, she will be more confident about herself and how she deals with you in the relationship. She will be prouder of herself and of you and will be generally more at ease because she knows that she has the confidence of the man she loves. If there’s no trust, then might as well get ready to be her future ex-boyfriend, and with you probably finding ways on how to get an ex back if you still love her. Don’t tell me I didn’t warn you!

Finally, do your damndest to earn her trust. Trust, after love, is the most important factor in any relationship. It is also perhaps the most important way to make your woman feel secure: let her know that she can trust you. Don’t give her any reason to doubt you or to fear about losing you to some other woman on a crazy night out. Earn her trust in everything – and I mean, EVERY THING.

Always strive to make your woman emotionally secure – because it is the key to have a healthy, happy relationship.

Keep it real guys, your blogger, DAHLAK “The Man” MEDHANE

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I’m A Geek And Proud Of It

Okay readers, so I wanted to share something with you guys; my deep, dark secret. It’s not something that’s obvious to everyone and so if you haven’t realised already, I’m a complete geek. And very proud of it! :) Geeky men may stand like wallflower next to the jocks and the preppy fashionista men who are walking GQ magazine covers; and quite frankly, next to these flawless debonair men, getting a date may be more challenging for geeks. What, with the geek’s obvious lack of self confidence and their comic book-absorbed personas, they would naturally fit on the sidelines too easily. But did you know that more and more girls are discovering the wonders and joys of dating geeks? (It’s true, email me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com and I’ll share my inside knowledge with you. )

So hey, geeky guy, come out of your chemistry lab more often! Ladies these days are more open to dating the likes of you and Albert Einstein (who, reportedly, was very popular among the ladies). Why not, there are a lot of reasons why she should date a geek!  And, actually, more and more ladies are seeking help for when dating the geeky men of this generation (I swear, check Google for the latest articles about ‘How to Date a Geeky Guy’). And so, to help you fellow geeky guys prepare for the geek-loving female world outside of your private labs, offices, and comic cons, here are some of very helpful dating tips for the geeky guys:

To begin with, don’t be afraid to use your geekiness to your advantage. Intelligence is sexy. Intelligence is interesting. Not all men are gifted with your intellectual capacity. You belong to a special breed of men whose intelligence is higher than most other men out there. You are talented – you aren’t quite like everyone else. By all means, sweetheart, you are special. You are a great and wonderful guy worthy of a lady’s attention. You may not look quite as good as most men, but hey, most men out there could not stand 5 minutes playing chess with you! Use your gifts to impress the ladies!

Secondly (and this piece of advice comes from a master dating coach) “Always look your best.Matthew Ganz’s @ [SIBG.com’s advice on how to get a girlfriend. So you wear a tacky tie to work every day. So your socks are always colored. So your favorite shirt is a Star Wars memento. Well then by all means, wear it with dignity. Ask friends of yours – ladies, if possible – to help you pair your favorite articles of clothing with some other things so you don’t look like a clown. There’s nothing wrong with your geekiness, especially if you pair it with some fashionable edge. And most important of all – yes, actually more important than all the fashion increments of this message – always be clean. Shower regularly, use deodorant, wear fresh, clean clothes every day, and wash your hair especially if you’re keeping your locks long.

And to finish, don’t try too hard to be like other, non-geeky men. Like I said, your geekiness is special. Use that to stand out. Talk to the ladies about the chemical content of their choice of drinks. Explain to them the underlying social message of V for Vendetta. Or talk about the history of the Statue of Liberty. The thing with geeky men is that they can handle meaningful conversations better than any others guys can. You don’t have to walk around in baggy pants and show off your underwear like most other guys do. Embrace yourself and you’ll find it a good source of confidence. You’ll see the ladies will come to you and asking them out on a date would be easy breezy.

So, ready to go out on a date be sure to read this for advice on how to court that girl you hot geeky thang? *wink*

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Going Outdoor? Go CAVEMAN!

Right guys, I’m sitting at my computer looking out the window, the sun is shining, the birds are singing, and I think it’s a great day to kick it up a notch and head outdoors on a date with that special person in your life. Dates these days are more than just the usual trip to the fanciest restaurant around or cuddling up in the movie theater watching the latest showings. Men, classier and more creative as you’ve become, have been more than wonderfully creative in date idea. Outdoor dates are becoming a hot trend, and for so many reasons.

A date outdoors, with a feel of the wind on your faces and the carefree closeness to nature, can easily bring in the good vibes. And without the need to act all aristocratic and high end on a picnic (although that is never an excuse to eat sloppily or noisily), it is easier to relax. On top of that, you are not necessarily confined to a one-on-one sesh in a crowded room.

The options you have for your outdoor date largely depends on how creative you are and on how much outdoor space you can explore around your area.

The bigger challenge in taking your date outdoors, however, is on how to make it a romantic date as opposed to the usual platonic meet up.

Thankfully, there are simple fool proof ways to promote a romantic environment to an outdoor date, be it a picnic at the local park, an afternoon on the beach watching the sunset, or a hiking trip to a nearby trail. Read these ideas for how to make a ‘good’ outdoor date, a ‘great’ one instead!

Let’s start with something simple but effective; the flowers. Flowers are tested and proven to create and set the mood on a date. Yes, flowers make women more romantic. Without flowers, any date would look ordinary and purely friendly. Go for a bunch of crimson roses or some pretty little lilies. For a beach date, lei of white blossoms or a huge piece of lily of the valley to tuck in her ear would easily set the tone for the beach date. Ditch the flowers on a hiking date, however. You can’t possibly be walking miles carrying a bunch of flowers that would likely be soft and wilted by the time you sit down for lunch.

A must remember on any outdoor trip are the right accessories. And I don’t mean jewellery. Make her comfortable but be creative while at it. Some cushions, a soft blanket and some candles or electric lamps for effect if going for a night out – these will not only keep her warm but will set the visuals of the date. Go for sexy, sultry colors of crimson and black or some deep pinks. Ditch grandma’s patchwork blankie, it will contradict the romantic ambiance.

Don’t forget the all important music. This is one basic tip in courting a girl. Nothing beats music when it comes to ambiance setting. Go for some sexy Latino beats over the open fire in the camping grounds or play some Owl City hits while exchanging some S’mores by the beach. Or better yet, play some old Beatles hits on your guitar at the ballpark and you’ll definitely have her attention while setting the mood.

And most importantly bring the right food. The secret to successful outdoor dating when it comes to food are these three things: none-filling, creative, and sexy. Have a combination of finger foods, non-messy, easy-to-pack food (and does not spoil easily!) presented in a very sexy way. And never, ever forget the sweets. Ditch the pasta for some turkey-raspberry sandwiches, chicken sandwich or some Hawaiian wrap. Bring some fresh fruit slices and eat them as is or be a little creative with some chocolate dip that you can prepare beforehand. Who needs a chocolate fondue when you can have this fast and easy?

Don’t just believe me, read this article at SIBG knowledge base or email me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com for some ideas.

Well that’s it from me for today, I’m heading off to make the most of the sun! Till next time readers!

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Skillz To Pay Tha Billz…

Heads up guys! I have some important information to share with you all. And I got this advice straight from the one of my lovely female reader’s who wrote in with a piece of advice for my blog. Now, I write a lot about dating and such but that doesn’t mean I know everything and I’m happy to admit that. Ladies, any time you think I could do with some tips about my blogs email me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com

Anyway back to my lovely reader, here’s what she had to say, “These days, your pretty face is not enough to help boost your dating life. Our tastes in men have improved and escalated over the years – we are no longer looking for men who have the best display of testosterone levels but men who can do more things than just take our clothes off.”

And right on! Put simply guys, YOU NEED SKILLZ! TO PAY THA BILLZ!

She went on to add, “We are now looking for men who are interesting: men who have passion over something and men who have a great sense of how to live their lives – men who have extra talents and skills.”

With this email in mind, I was inspired to help my male readers, so here are some of sexiest, most attractive talents and skills that you can use to boost your attractiveness to the female kind. So we all know that the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, yes. But so it is to a woman’s. How can any woman disguise her impression with a man who can whip up something awesome from scratch? There’s an art and sensuality to flipping pans and putting together different ingredients to produce one entirely different thing. it seems men are becoming more gastrosexuals in attracting women. The sensations and satisfaction that come with eating is not too far from the same satisfaction as an orgasm so your girl feels just as happy. Now that should get you cookin’!

The next one is pretty obvious; music. Steven Tyler can easily take home more women than Eric Dane even when the advantage on looks is apparently on only one of them. Music can go where no words can. Play your guitar on a beach date, sing a song for her at a karaoke, or even take over the restaurant lounge
and play some ballad on the piano for her and seal your deal with her heart.

Knowledge on wines is a great skill to master. Have many times have you ever had to tell the waiter at the restaurant to get you ‘their best wine’ or ‘whatever goes best with fish’ because you cannot tell a merlot from a cabernet? Impress your date by taking her on a wine event or suggesting the right type of wine for her steak. Let her marvel at your ‘vast knowledge’ as you give her snippets of information about wines.

This one can be a bit geeky but it’s always entertaining; magic tricks – while I don’t recommend using your date’s ears as a vending machine by making coins, cola, sandwiches and snacks magically appear from her ear or purse, a few sweet magic tricks would afford you all her attention throughout your date night. Just watch her face brighten up in delight at the piece of long stemmed rose you picked off her hair or guessing her secret card number she so flirtatiously hid in her chest. This is especially true when you’re flirting with a flirt.

An old skill but a great one; being handy with tools. Most girls have not gotten over that innate need for chivalry, to be taken care of by their man. And it would only be naturally impressive if our men can fix the car, change the light bulbs, or take the virus off of the PC. A guy who can play the all around handyman comes off to us women as very reliable, responsible, and still very manly.

Impress your date with skills that make you unique – capture her heart by being someone that she could not find elsewhere. Learn what SIBG.com has got to say about meeting women.  If you need more info about courting that special lady in your life read this. Let me know what you think!

 

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Uranium Cafe Sticky Question: Should You Take It to the Bedroom?

Hi all, I was thinking about this subject quite recently, so I decided to put pen to paper—so to speak. Working out whether it’s the right time to take it to the bedroom can be a really hard question to answer, even harder an issue to talk about. Especially if you’re dating someone who could be Scarlett Johansson’s doppelganger or Kate Upton’s clone, I believe you’d rather leave the matter into your own hands (no pun intended) than actually talk about it.

When you’re dating someone, is there a right time to go physical? How long do you have to hold your horses to make love to her? Would you even hold your horses and wait? No, this isn’t going to be some morality lecture or a lesson on sex education. Given that you are an adult who has not promised to save it all for marriage, this is something you’d have to face sooner or later.

How long should you be dating before you consider taking each other home?

And no, we’re not talking here about your one night stand or casual sex or friends with benefits partner. We’re looking at someone who you’ve been going out with for some time and who you have every intention of getting to know for a possibly steady relationship.

So when is it the right time?

Well, a good place to start is by asking these questions as there’s no specific number of months or weeks (or days?!) when you should take your relationship to the bedroom level. The right time is more a matter of when you both are ready for what’s next – sex can be so powerful it can make or break a budding relationship. There are reasons why you should hold back and you may want to check this article on Marie Claire.

So how do you when can it be the right time to take it to the next level?

It depends on a lot of thing and neither I nor anyone else around you can tell when the right time is. So ask yourself these questions to help you decide.

To begin with, how well do you know her?  This is where I should talk about how well you know your partner for health reasons – an STD is never a joke. But more than that, sleeping with someone requires some amount of trust, especially for the woman. It also pays to have meaningful conversations with her rather than the sweet nothings. Save them for later. She has to be very comfortable with you otherwise it would be a totally awkward thing in the morning.

Next, how does she feel about doing it? What are her own principles about it? It is important to know what she thinks about sex in general. And maybe, importantly, how many times has she done it in the past? Her own history on sex is a huge factor on her willingness (and unwillingness too) to delve into that activity. If it is going to be her first, you might want to slow it down. I don’t think you should ask her how many times she did it. There are ways on how to dig into this information. SIBG-Baltimore Chapter may be able to help you. Need to have a deep conversation with her? Apart from that you can also check out this article for some tips.

What do you think happens afterwards? To a lot of women, submitting themselves to a man in sex is equal to commitment. And it would be safe to assume that is true for all women, not because it is true for all women but because it is a whole lot riskier to believe otherwise. So unless you’re both looking at commitment for the long term, then you may want to push the brakes and take things slow.

There are a lot of surprise benefits to taking things slow in dating. Remember,just because you’re horny doesn’t mean she is, too. There are differences between a man and a woman’s sex drive. Give yourselves time to explore it, and you just might find what you’ve been looking for. For more advice hit me up at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com

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“Good Things Come to Those Who Wait.”

Hello lurkers! So I’ve received a ton of emails about my last post. Thank you for the warm reception! I was thinking of what to write today and I’ve remembered a girl I dated in the past who was really nice and all. She introduced me to her friends, and as pressure was brewing, I also introduced her to mine. Unfortunately, I guess it wasn’t the perfect timing. So here’s something for you guys to ponder on.

So you’ve been dating a month and she introduced you to her friends? You’ve come a long way from asking for advice on asking a woman out, (BTW hit me up at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com for more on this) to getting a date/courting her and now being introduced to her friends. Congratulations! You’ve reached a new level in dating: it’s called the I-will-let-my-friends-judge-you-for-real-they’ve-heard-so-much-about-you-anyway level. And that should make you feel both flattered and scared.

But wait, her introducing you to her friends does not mean you should reciprocate it right away! Just because she did it doesn’t mean it should pressure you into doing the same. There’s a huge world of difference between a girl introducing you to her girlfriends and you doing it with your friends.

It’s important to remember that “good things come to those who wait,” and here are some of the reasons why you should hold your horses and wait a little bit longer before introducing her to your best buddies:

To start with, your friends might turn her off. Ever heard of “tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”? Even when you’re not as big a jerk as your friends, chances are, she’d think you’re exactly the same as them. So if your friends are the misbehaving type, wait just a little bit longer ‘til you’re both comfortable with each other and she knows you enough to distinguish you from your friends.

It’s important to remember that they might scare her away. Some girls like to take things slow. She might think you are getting too serious too soon and it might cause her to back off. It’s a lot of pressure to be introduced to your best brothers from different mothers you know.

And it could mislead her, which is is the polar opposite of No. 2. Some girls think that just because you introduced her to your friends, you guys are totally together and she could move in with you tomorrow. This is so true if you’re dating a possibly clingy girl. And she could totally use it against you if you break it up with her. So unless you’re looking into something serious with her, you might really want to take it just a wee bit longer.

Remember, guy friends are not the same as girlfriends. It’s almost the same as us bringing you over to family dinner right away. So take it slow, make sure you both are ready for it and willing to do it. It’s a different story (and a different blog post altogether) however if she’s asking to be introduced to your friends.

It’s got to be the right timing. When you should take her to meet them boys…Sure there are tips on how to introduce your girlfriend to your buddies, but as the cliche goes, “Timing is everything.”
There’s a season for everything. And thus, there’s always a perfect time to introduce her to your buddies a good place to begin is when you’re official. Boyfriend-girlfriend, wifey-hubby, or anything that says you’re official is always a cue for you to bring her to boys’ night. She would hate if you didn’t even when you guys are serious.

Perhaps a good idea is to just leave it to chance, when they see you, unintentionally, with her. Seriously, this doesn’t take a genius to figure out! Meeting your friends accidentally with your girl would be awkward if you don’t introduce her.

Be sure to find out though if she’s willing. Some girls are so cool with it and would be excited to do it without expecting anything. Gauge her. You know her better than I do! Does she seem the type who can play pool with them and not expect you to stick with her for the next ten years?

Again, the secret to successfully pulling this off is by perfectly assessing how ready you both are for this. It can really change your level of dating so prepare for these consequences!

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Flirt! Flirt! Flirt!

Greetings to all my readers out there! So I had an email the other day, from a reader, let’s call him Joe for privacy purposes. So Joe got in touch to ask my advice as a dating coach, “Dear Dahlak, I’ve been having problems when it comes to picking up women. And I think I just have to face facts; I suck at flirting. Got any tips for a wannabe Casanova?”

Well Joe, flirting is a huge part of the dating process. We all do it, one way or another. Others are just so much better at it, some are overdoing it to the point of being trashy, and still there are some who do it discreetly (but frequently!)

Flirty girls are the trickiest girls to flirt with. It’s hard enough to get her attention when she’s surrounded by other men and she would literally drown in all the drinks that are offered to her. But trust me, underneath all that smile and charm is a girl who still gets nervous around a guy that she likes and would still work up to be noticed.

So here are my tips and guidelines to mastering the art of flirting. Always be cool. Flirty girls are surrounded by men who would willingly lap at their toenails for their attention. They are used to men who adore them like they were Greek goddesses. That’s not what you want to be. Do not look desperate for her attention. Picking up flirty girls may be easy– (read this article!), but if you’re nervous you’re bound to fail. Be very cool and act like you’re not at all impressed at her beauty or whatever it is that’s impressive about her. In a bar, for example, pass by her, look at her, smile, and walk away. Get her attention with your cool smile, make eye contact, break it then walk away as if you found something more interesting than her. (Note: Walk confidently!)

Another tip is to flirt with other girls. When you’ve caught her attention, it would be hard to break it. She would be surrounded by other men but her peripherals are eyeing you. And when she sees you flirting with other girls, she’d put her game face on to get you. Flirts love attention and competition, and you’ll love when she’s aiming for you as the prize.

It’s important to stay cool. This is when she’d try to start a small talk. Stay cool.

Do not waver in your ‘cool resolve’. Don’t give her the diva attention she’s getting from all the other men. The key in learning how to win a girls heart is confidence. Trust me, if she likes you, she’d work so hard to get your attention. Start a small talk, don’t sound too eager but don’t be boring either. Listen to her, keep eye contact, smile but don’t talk too much nor compliment too much. Act like you’ve seen better (even though we know you have not. *wink*) Again, keep that cool face of yours.
A bit of off the cuff advice; leave. Cut her off somewhere in her story. Do not rush her, that’s too eager and that’s not sexy. When you have all of her attention, leave her wanting more by literally leaving. Say you have to be somewhere but don’t forget to get her number. Say something along the lines of ‘I have to run somewhere. Can we finish this some other time, over some wine maybe?’ Who knows, you’ve done the first three steps wisely she’d end up giving you her number before you even ask.
A flirt is just like any other girl, only more charming. They get guys with a single wink. Don’t be that guy! Now hold your horses and don’t rejoice…yet. That was only the beginning! Good luck on your first date with one from the flirty kind! Keep it here at The Uranium Cafe for more dating advice and tips.

Well Joe, I hope this helps you and any other reader’s plagued with flirting issues. And don’t forget, I’m always here to help just email me at dahlak@uraniumcafe-the.com

Peace out,
D.M.

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