How To Pick Up Girls

How to pick up girls like a true professional

Since I turned into a full-time dating and relationships coach, many of my friends have been coming to my place to ask for advice. They want to know how to pick up girls and make them fall in love with you quickly and easily. The answer to this question is actually quite straightforward. However many guys are confused since there is a lot of information out there which seems to be contradictory. For example, there are just too many blogs on dating and seduction that are written by guys who may have tried a couple of techniques and worked for them. However, these techniques may not be universal, and they may backfire year if you do not use them in the right context.

One of these techniques is called fractionation. This technique is actually a controversial since it is reportedly to be super powerful. In fact, it has been claimed to be one of the most powerful seduction techniques ever to be invented by human. First originated inside the circles of persuasion, hypnosis and mind control back in the 1970s, it has since been adapted to be used in the modern seduction world by pioneers in the underground seduction communities found on the Internet since the 1980s. There are many variations of fractionation used in the context of seduction. One of these variations are called the October Man Sequence. You may have heard about this particular technique from a particularly famous book called The Game, written by a journalist from the Rolling Stone magazine. Based on fractionation, the October Man Sequence is said to be able to make women fall in love in as quickly as 15 minutes from start to finish. It is that powerful, and I have seen it used in the field many times by proven experts. It is quite mind-boggling to see how effective it is to make a woman fall in love with you.

For a beginner, I do not recommend the usage of the October Man sequence or other techniques which are based on fractionation because it is actually quite hard to be used in the field. Also, many newbies in the seduction game make the mistake of learning routines and stories in order to pick up women. They come across as in-congruent and dishonest and this is a sure sign of insecurity. Needless to say, women are turned off by this apparent lack of confidence.

Many seduction gurus and dating experts also recommend building confidence using trickery known as inner game techniques. Of course increasing confidence is always a good thing but this often takes time and effort – and usually it takes somebody months in order to build up confidence. I once had a student who is so fearful of women that approaching them in the public is something very scary to them. As a result, I put him on the therapy in order to overcome this fear of approaching women. The fact is that if your fearful of approaching women then everything is a nonstarter. It doesn’t matter if you know fractionation or other similarly powerful techniques if you cannot even the basic rapport with a woman. Therefore in order to be good at love, dating and relationships, you must know the nuts and bolts of building basic emotional connection or rapport with a woman. That is the recommended starting point that recommend for most guys. And if you need something more advanced, you can always check out the October Man Sequence – chronicled rather impressively at OctoberManSequence.org.

How to build rapport and pick up girls in 15 minutes or less

In order to build effective rapport with the woman, you must first develop empathy with her. What this means is that you must look at things from the perspective of a female. In this respect it is very useful if you are able to learn the basics of female psychology. It is no coincidence that the modern seduction body of knowledge overlaps heavily with traditional psychology, mind control, and hypnosis fields of study. I have a few students who help psychology and persuasion degrees and it is no coincidence that they picked up seduction rather quickly – much quicker than the average student. Therefore if you want to be good with women, is very useful if you can pickup the subject of human psychology as well as hypnosis. Specialized hypnosis techniques such as neuro linguistic programming (or better known as NLP) are also useful. In fact, basic NLP principles and techniques such as anchoring and framing I used again and again in dating and seduction.

Secondly, in order to know how to pick up girls, go download and research on as many seduction programs as you can online. I myself started this journey of improving myself by looking at blogs written by seduction experts. There is no point reinventing the wheel. There are lots of guys who have already been through what you are going through now. Therefore actively seek out experts and you will be able to learn much faster without having to experience much failure yourself. By doing this, you will be able to improve your seduction game and start dating the women that you like as quickly as possible. A good resource is this page – it’s something on how to seduce women that will improve your love life by leaps and bounds. Try it!

Why You Shouldn’t Introduce Her to Your Friends Just Yet

Hello lurkers! I’ve received a ton of emails about my last post. Thank you for the warm reception! I was thinking of what to write today and I’ve remembered  a girl I dated in the past who was really nice and all. She introduced me to her friends, and as pressure was brewing, I also introduced her to mine. Unfortunately, I guess it wasn’t the perfect timing. So here’s something for you guys to ponder on.

 

So you’ve been dating a month and she introduced you to her friends? You’ve come a long way from asking for advice on asking a woman out, to getting a date, and now being introduced to her friends. Congratulations! You’ve reached a new level in dating: it’s called the I-will-let-my-friends-judge-you-for-real-they’ve-heard-so-much-about-you-anyway level. And that should make you feel both flattered and scared.

But wait, her introducing you to her friends does not mean you should reciprocate it right away! Just because she did it doesn’t mean it should pressure you into doing the same. There’s a huge world of difference between a girl introducing you to les girlfriends and you doing it with your friends.

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

Here are some of the reasons why you should hold your horses and wait a little bit longer before introducing her to your best buddies:

1. Your friends might turn her off. Ever heard of “tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”? Even when you’re not as big a jerk as your friends, chances are, she’d think you’re exactly the same as them. So if your friends are the misbehaving type, wait just a little bit longer ‘til you’re both comfortable with each other and she knows you enough to distinguish you from your friends.

2. It might scare her away. Some girls like to take things slow. She might think you are getting too serious too soon and it might cause her to back off. It’s a lot of pressure to be introduced to your best brothers from different mothers you know.

3. It might mislead her. This is the polar opposite of No. 2. Some girls think that just because you introduced her to your friends, you guys are totally together and she could move in with you tomorrow. This is so true if you’re dating a possibly clingy girl. And she could totally use it against you if you break it up with her. So unless you’re looking into something serious with her, you might really want to take it just a wee bit longer.

Remember, guy friends are not the same as girlfriends. It’s almost the same as us bringing you over to family dinner right away. So take it slow, make sure you both are ready for it and willing to do it. It’s a different story (and a different blog post altogether) however if she’s asking to be introduced to your friends.

The Right Timing

When introducing her to your friends, timing is everything.

When introducing her to your friends, timing is everything.

When you should take her to meet them boys…Sure there are tips on how to introduce your girlfriend to your buddies, but as the cliche goes, “Timing is everything.”

There’s a season for everything. And thus, there’s always a perfect time to introduce her to your buddies:

1. When you’re official. Boyfriend-girlfriend, wifey-hubby, or anything that says you’re official is always a cue for you to bring her to boys’ night. She would hate if you didn’t even when you guys are serious.

2. When they see you, unintentionally, with her. Seriously, this doesn’t take a genius to figure out! Meeting your friends accidentally with your girl would be awkward if you don’t introduce her.

3. If she’s willing. Some girls are so cool with it and would be excited to do it without expecting anything. Gauge her. You know her better than I do! Does she seem the type who can play pool with them and not expect you to stick with her for the next ten years?

Again, the secret to successfully pulling this off is by perfectly assessing how ready you both are for this. It can really change your level of dating so prepare for these consequences!

Flirting with a Flirt and How to Win Her

Flirting is a huge part of the dating process. We all do it, one way or another. Others are just so much better at it, some are overdoing it to the point of being trashy, and still there are some who do it discreetly (but frequently!)

Flirty girls are the trickiest girls to flirt with. It’s hard enough to get her attention when she’s surrounded by other men and she would literally drown in all the drinks that are offered to her. But trust me, underneath all that smile and charm is a girl who still gets nervous around a guy that she likes and would still work up to be noticed.

Flirting with a flirt is quite challenging, but getting her to be yours is rewarding.

Flirting with a flirt is quite challenging, but getting her to be yours is rewarding.

Some Important Tips and Guidelines

Be cool. Flirty girls are surrounded by men who would willingly lap at their toenails for their attention. They are used to men who adore them like they were Greek goddesses. That’s not what you want to be. Do not look desperate for her attention. Picking up flirty girls may be easy– (read this article!), but if you’re nervous you’re bound to fail. Be very cool and act like you’re not at all impressed at her beauty or whatever it is that’s impressive about her. In a bar, for example, pass by her, look at her, smile, and walk away. Get her attention with your cool smile, make eye contact, break it then walk away as if you found something more interesting than her. (Note: Walk confidently!)
Flirt with other girls. When you’ve caught her attention, it would be hard to break it. She would be surrounded by other men but her peripherals are eyeing you. And when she sees you flirting with other girls, she’d put her game face on to get you. Flirts love attention and competition, and you’ll love when she’s aiming for you as the prize.
Stay cool. This is when she’d try to start a small talk. Stay cool. Do not waver in your ‘cool resolve’. Don’t give her the diva attention she’s getting from all the other men. The key in learning how to win a girls heart is confidence. Trust me, if she likes you, she’d work so hard to get your attention. Start a small talk, don’t sound too eager but don’t be boring either. Listen to her, keep eye contact, smile but don’t talk too much nor compliment too much. Act like you’ve seen better (even though we know you have not. *wink*) Again, keep that cool face of yours.

Leave. Cut her off somewhere in her story. Do not rush her, that’s too eager and that’s not sexy. When you have all of her attention, leave her wanting more by literally leaving. Say you have to be somewhere but don’t forget to get her number. Say something along the lines of ‘I have to run somewhere. Can we finish this some other time, over some wine maybe?’ Who knows, you’ve done the first three steps wisely she’d end up giving you her number before you even ask.

A flirt is just like any other girl, only more charming. They get guys with a single wink. Don’t be that guy! Now hold your horses and don’t rejoice…yet. That was only the beginning! Good luck on your first date with one from the flirty kind! Keep it here at The Uranium Cafe for more dating advice and tips.

Peace out,

D.M.

Online Dating Tips Any Guy Must Know

I am not a big fan of online dating. There, I said it.

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There’s a big problem when it comes to meeting women online. It’s fake. You don’t get to see her body language, and it’s hard to calibrate your responses according to her non-verbal ques. This is a problem when you try to use my seduction techniques online. The courtship process is most of the time frustrating and misleading. They do not work as effectively as they should.

Also, there’s a false sense of accomplishment when you are able to get a woman’s number online. It’s a fool’s game. It’s easy to get digits online. The real measure of a seducer is to get a phone number of a woman who is evaluating you in real life.

Nevertheless, there are some merits when it comes to online dating.

One advantage of online dating is that you can broaden your reach and meet women across different locations. It’s also a good opportunity for you to practice the techniques or dating tricks that you learn from programs such as the Mystery Method or Sonic Seduction with very little or no rejection risk.

It’s also much easier to “approach” a girl online. All you need to do is to send emails or private messages. It doesn’t get simpler than this!

For these reasons, sites like Match.com and eHarmony are flourishing online. Many guys fork out tremendous sums of money in order to contact the profiles that they see at online dating sites. It just doesn’t get much easier. Also, now most women are on Facebook – which makes things so much easier if you want to get yourself a girlfriend.

Most of the times guys fail when it comes to getting favorable responses from the women that they meet online. They simply do not have the skills to impress women over the Internet.

A decent looking woman would get tens if not hundreds of messages from men at online dating sites. So, it’s important to be able to stand out from the crowd and make a good first impression. It’s quite difficult to attract a stranger or an unknown girl, and this is why many guys fail at this alone – they just are not able to differentiate themselves from the rest of the pack.

The smarter ones would learn online dating techniques from programs such as the eDating Method or Derek Rake’s Online Dating Playbook. Most other guys just rely on trial and error… and most of them give up after failing to get dates. SonicSeduction.net also has great techniques every man must learn how to master. They truly help out a lot when it comes to the dating games.

It’s a shame, really.

Online dating is a number’s game. The more you approach, the more will respond to you. This is especially true when you gain more experience, and you will learn exactly what messages will give you the results that you want.

This is very similar to “real life” game, really.

You just need to keep approaching, and don’t take rejections seriously.

With enough practice, any guy can turn into a seduction master. When you are one, just don’t turn into a lame pickup artist, or worse, a dating guru who sells worthless, rehashed ebooks for a living.