How To Pick Up Girls

August 29, 2012 By krypton

How to pick up girls like a true professional

Since I turned into a full-time dating and relationships coach, many of my friends have been coming to my place to ask for advice. They want to know how to pick up girls and make them fall in love with you quickly and easily. The answer to this question is actually quite straightforward. However many guys are confused since there is a lot of information out there which seems to be contradictory. For example, there are just too many blogs on dating and seduction that are written by guys who may have tried a couple of techniques and worked for them. However, these techniques may not be universal, and they may backfire year if you do not use them in the right context.

One of these techniques is called fractionation. This technique is actually a controversial since it is reportedly to be super powerful. In fact, it has been claimed to be one of the most powerful seduction techniques ever to be invented by human. First originated inside the circles of persuasion, hypnosis and mind control back in the 1970s, it has since been adapted to be used in the modern seduction world by pioneers in the underground seduction communities found on the Internet since the 1980s. There are many variations of fractionation used in the context of seduction. One of these variations are called the October Man Sequence. You may have heard about this particular technique from a particularly famous book called The Game, written by a journalist from the Rolling Stone magazine. Based on fractionation, the October Man Sequence is said to be able to make women fall in love in as quickly as 15 minutes from start to finish. It is that powerful, and I have seen it used in the field many times by proven experts. It is quite mind-boggling to see how effective it is to make a woman fall in love with you.

For a beginner, I do not recommend the usage of the October Man sequence or other techniques which are based on fractionation because it is actually quite hard to be used in the field. Also, many newbies in the seduction game make the mistake of learning routines and stories in order to pick up women. They come across as in-congruent and dishonest and this is a sure sign of insecurity. Needless to say, women are turned off by this apparent lack of confidence.

Many seduction gurus and dating experts also recommend building confidence using trickery known as inner game techniques. Of course increasing confidence is always a good thing but this often takes time and effort – and usually it takes somebody months in order to build up confidence. I once had a student who is so fearful of women that approaching them in the public is something very scary to them. As a result, I put him on the therapy in order to overcome this fear of approaching women. The fact is that if your fearful of approaching women then everything is a nonstarter. It doesn’t matter if you know fractionation or other similarly powerful techniques if you cannot even the basic rapport with a woman. Therefore in order to be good at love, dating and relationships, you must know the nuts and bolts of building basic emotional connection or rapport with a woman. That is the recommended starting point that recommend for most guys. And if you need something more advanced, you can always check out the October Man Sequence – chronicled rather impressively at OctoberManSequence.org.

How to build rapport and pick up girls in 15 minutes or less

In order to build effective rapport with the woman, you must first develop empathy with her. What this means is that you must look at things from the perspective of a female. In this respect it is very useful if you are able to learn the basics of female psychology. It is no coincidence that the modern seduction body of knowledge overlaps heavily with traditional psychology, mind control, and hypnosis fields of study. I have a few students who help psychology and persuasion degrees and it is no coincidence that they picked up seduction rather quickly – much quicker than the average student. Therefore if you want to be good with women, is very useful if you can pickup the subject of human psychology as well as hypnosis. Specialized hypnosis techniques such as neuro linguistic programming (or better known as NLP) are also useful. In fact, basic NLP principles and techniques such as anchoring and framing I used again and again in dating and seduction.

Secondly, in order to know how to pick up girls, go download and research on as many seduction programs as you can online. I myself started this journey of improving myself by looking at blogs written by seduction experts. There is no point reinventing the wheel. There are lots of guys who have already been through what you are going through now. Therefore actively seek out experts and you will be able to learn much faster without having to experience much failure yourself. By doing this, you will be able to improve your seduction game and start dating the women that you like as quickly as possible. A good resource is this page – it’s something on how to seduce women that will improve your love life by leaps and bounds. Try it!

Filed Under: Dating Tactics

Uranium Cafe Sticky Question: Should You Take It to the Bedroom?

May 23, 2013 By krypton

This is a really hard question to answer, even harder an issue to talk about. Especially if you’re dating someone who could be Scarlett Johansson’s doppelganger or Kate Upton’s clone, I believe you’d rather leave the matter into your own hands (no pun intended) than actually talk about it.

When you’re dating someone, is there a right time to go physical? How long do you have to hold your horses to make love to her? Would you even hold your horses and wait?

No, this isn’t going to be some morality lecture or a lesson on sex education. Given that you are an adult who has not promised to save it all for marriage, this is something you’d have to face sooner or later. How long should you be dating before you consider taking each other home?

And no, we’re not talking here about your one night stand or casual sex or friends with benefits partner. We’re looking at someone who you’ve been going out with for some time and who you have every intention of getting to know for a possibly steady relationship.

When is the Right Time?

There’s no specific number of months or weeks (or days?!) when you should take your relationship to the bedroom level. The right time is more a matter of when you both are ready for what’s next – sex can be so powerful it can make or break a budding relationship. There are reasons why you should hold back, and you may want to check this article on Marie Claire.

So how do you when can it be the right time to take it to the next level? It depends on a lot of thing and neither I nor anyone else around you can tell when the right time is.

Ask yourself these questions to help you decide:

How well do you know her? This is where I should talk about how well you know your partner for health reasons – an STD is never a joke. But more than that, sleeping with someone requires some amount of trust, especially for the woman. It also pays to have meaningful conversations with her rather than the sweet nothings. Save them for later. She has to be very comfortable with you otherwise it would be a totally awkward thing in the morning.

How does she feel about doing it? What are her own principles about it? It is important to know what she thinks about sex in general.

How many times has she done it in the past? Her own history on sex is a huge factor on her willingness (and unwillingness too) to delve into that activity. If it is going to be her first, you might want to slow it down. I don’t think you should ask her how many times she did it. There are ways on how to dig into this information. SIBG-Baltimore Chapter may be able to help you.

To a lot of women, submitting themselves to a man in sex is equal to commitment.

What do you think happens afterwards? To a lot of women, submitting themselves to a man in sex is equal to commitment. And it would be safe to assume that is true for all women, not because it is true for all women but because it is a whole lot riskier to believe otherwise. So unless you’re both looking at commitment for the long term, then you may want to push the brakes and take things slow.

There are a lot of surprise benefits to taking things slow in dating. Remembe, not because you’re horny means she is, too. There are differences between a man and a woman’s sex drive. Give yourselves time to explore it, and you just might find what you’ve been looking for.

Filed Under: Dating Tactics Tagged With: dating, relationships, women

Why You Shouldn’t Introduce Her to Your Friends Just Yet

May 20, 2013 By krypton

Hello lurkers! I’ve received a ton of emails about my last post. Thank you for the warm reception! I was thinking of what to write today and I’ve remembered a girl I dated in the past who was really nice and all. She introduced me to her friends, and as pressure was brewing, I also introduced her to mine. Unfortunately, I guess it wasn’t the perfect timing. So here’s something for you guys to ponder on.

So you’ve been dating a month and she introduced you to her friends? You’ve come a long way from asking for advice on asking a woman out, to getting a date, and now being introduced to her friends. Congratulations! You’ve reached a new level in dating: it’s called the I-will-let-my-friends-judge-you-for-real-they’ve-heard-so-much-about-you-anyway level. And that should make you feel both flattered and scared.

But wait, her introducing you to her friends does not mean you should reciprocate it right away! Just because she did it doesn’t mean it should pressure you into doing the same. There’s a huge world of difference between a girl introducing you to les girlfriends and you doing it with your friends.

Good Things Come to Those Who Wait

Here are some of the reasons why you should hold your horses and wait a little bit longer before introducing her to your best buddies:

1. Your friends might turn her off. Ever heard of “tell me who your friends are and I’ll tell you who you are”? Even when you’re not as big a jerk as your friends, chances are, she’d think you’re exactly the same as them. So if your friends are the misbehaving type, wait just a little bit longer ‘til you’re both comfortable with each other and she knows you enough to distinguish you from your friends.

2. It might scare her away. Some girls like to take things slow. She might think you are getting too serious too soon and it might cause her to back off. It’s a lot of pressure to be introduced to your best brothers from different mothers you know.

3. It might mislead her. This is the polar opposite of No. 2. Some girls think that just because you introduced her to your friends, you guys are totally together and she could move in with you tomorrow. This is so true if you’re dating a possibly clingy girl. And she could totally use it against you if you break it up with her. So unless you’re looking into something serious with her, you might really want to take it just a wee bit longer.

Remember, guy friends are not the same as girlfriends. It’s almost the same as us bringing you over to family dinner right away. So take it slow, make sure you both are ready for it and willing to do it. It’s a different story (and a different blog post altogether) however if she’s asking to be introduced to your friends.

The Right Timing

When introducing her to your friends, timing is everything.

When you should take her to meet them boys…Sure there are tips on how to introduce your girlfriend to your buddies, but as the cliche goes, “Timing is everything.”

There’s a season for everything. And thus, there’s always a perfect time to introduce her to your buddies:

1. When you’re official. Boyfriend-girlfriend, wifey-hubby, or anything that says you’re official is always a cue for you to bring her to boys’ night. She would hate if you didn’t even when you guys are serious.

2. When they see you, unintentionally, with her. Seriously, this doesn’t take a genius to figure out! Meeting your friends accidentally with your girl would be awkward if you don’t introduce her.

3. If she’s willing. Some girls are so cool with it and would be excited to do it without expecting anything. Gauge her. You know her better than I do! Does she seem the type who can play pool with them and not expect you to stick with her for the next ten years?

Again, the secret to successfully pulling this off is by perfectly assessing how ready you both are for this. It can really change your level of dating so prepare for these consequences!

Filed Under: Dating Tactics Tagged With: dating, friends, women

Flirting with a Flirt and How to Win Her

May 1, 2013 By krypton

Flirting is a huge part of the dating process. We all do it, one way or another. Others are just so much better at it, some are overdoing it to the point of being trashy, and still there are some who do it discreetly (but frequently!)

Flirty girls are the trickiest girls to flirt with. It’s hard enough to get her attention when she’s surrounded by other men and she would literally drown in all the drinks that are offered to her. But trust me, underneath all that smile and charm is a girl who still gets nervous around a guy that she likes and would still work up to be noticed.

Flirting with a flirt is quite challenging, but getting her to be yours is rewarding.

Some Important Tips and Guidelines

Be cool. Flirty girls are surrounded by men who would willingly lap at their toenails for their attention. They are used to men who adore them like they were Greek goddesses. That’s not what you want to be. Do not look desperate for her attention. Picking up flirty girls may be easy– (read this article!), but if you’re nervous you’re bound to fail. Be very cool and act like you’re not at all impressed at her beauty or whatever it is that’s impressive about her. In a bar, for example, pass by her, look at her, smile, and walk away. Get her attention with your cool smile, make eye contact, break it then walk away as if you found something more interesting than her. (Note: Walk confidently!)
Flirt with other girls. When you’ve caught her attention, it would be hard to break it. She would be surrounded by other men but her peripherals are eyeing you. And when she sees you flirting with other girls, she’d put her game face on to get you. Flirts love attention and competition, and you’ll love when she’s aiming for you as the prize.
Stay cool. This is when she’d try to start a small talk. Stay cool. Do not waver in your ‘cool resolve’. Don’t give her the diva attention she’s getting from all the other men. The key in learning how to win a girls heart is confidence. Trust me, if she likes you, she’d work so hard to get your attention. Start a small talk, don’t sound too eager but don’t be boring either. Listen to her, keep eye contact, smile but don’t talk too much nor compliment too much. Act like you’ve seen better (even though we know you have not. *wink*) Again, keep that cool face of yours.

Leave. Cut her off somewhere in her story. Do not rush her, that’s too eager and that’s not sexy. When you have all of her attention, leave her wanting more by literally leaving. Say you have to be somewhere but don’t forget to get her number. Say something along the lines of ‘I have to run somewhere. Can we finish this some other time, over some wine maybe?’ Who knows, you’ve done the first three steps wisely she’d end up giving you her number before you even ask.

A flirt is just like any other girl, only more charming. They get guys with a single wink. Don’t be that guy! Now hold your horses and don’t rejoice…yet. That was only the beginning! Good luck on your first date with one from the flirty kind! Keep it here at The Uranium Cafe for more dating advice and tips.

Peace out,

D.M.